For many years, funerals in the UK followed a very traditional pattern. Typically, they involved a church or religious ceremony, followed by burial or cremation. These formal services often took place quickly after the death, with limited flexibility and a high cost.
But times are changing. Since the 1970s, the UK has become increasingly secular. More of us now prefer personal, meaningful goodbyes that reflect the life, values, and relationships of the person we’ve lost.
Today, a growing number of people are choosing an alternative, one that’s both more affordable and more flexible. This is where an unattended cremation, also known as a direct, or pure, cremation, can offer a gentler, simpler option.
What is an unattended cremation?
An unattended cremation is a cremation that takes place without a funeral service and without mourners present. There is no hearse, no limousines, and no formal ceremony at the crematorium. The cremation itself happens privately, in a peaceful and respectful setting.
This approach gives families more freedom. You can hold a memorial or celebration of life at a later date, in a way that suits your loved one’s personality, beliefs, and the needs of your family.
There’s no rush. No set script. No pressure to gather everyone together in the space of a few days. Just the time and freedom to say goodbye in your own way.
Although it’s referred to as an unattended cremation, that doesn’t mean there’s nobody there. The cremation is still performed by caring professionals.
What does a direct cremation include?
A direct cremation still typically includes all the essential elements to ensure a respectful and dignified farewell:
- Cremation fees – the cost charged by the crematorium
- Doctor’s fees – certification for the cremation to go ahead
- Collection and care – bringing your loved one into care and preparing them for cremation
- A simple coffin – dignified and suitable for cremation
- Transport – respectful transfer to the crematorium
- Cremation itself – carried out by trained professionals
- Ashes – returned to the family or scattered on your behalf
Always check before going ahead, as some providers will charge extra for certain services. At Pure Cremation, we include all of the above in one straightforward, all-inclusive price. There are no hidden extras, just clarity, dignity, and compassionate care.
Why do people choose an unattended cremation?
There are many reasons why families are choosing this type of farewell.
For some, it’s about simplicity. They want something low-key, without the formalities and fuss that often come with traditional funerals.
For others, it’s about personalisation. By separating the cremation from the farewell, they can take their time to plan something truly meaningful, at a time and place that suits them.
And for many, it’s about cost. With the average traditional funeral costing over four thousand pounds, a direct cremation offers a far more affordable option, without compromising on care.
A farewell that fits your life
One of the largest benefits of an unattended cremation is the freedom it offers. Without the pressure to hold a formal funeral a certain way, you can plan a goodbye that feels right for you and your loved ones.
Here are just a few of the ways families mark the life of someone they’ve lost:
- A garden gathering with food, flowers and photos
- A beach picnic followed by the scattering of ashes
- An evening dinner party at a favourite restaurant
- A family walk at a cherished location
- A celebration of life with music, stories, and laughter
- An online memorial for friends and family around the world
Some keep things small and intimate. Others organise something more public. There are no rules, just the freedom to remember and reflect in a way that feels right. For more ideas on creating a personal send-off, take a look at our free guide with lots of meaningful ideas.
The cost of unattended cremation in the UK
The cost of a direct cremation varies depending on the provider and location. Some providers offer very low prices, but it’s important to check what’s included. Are doctor’s fees extra? Will ashes be returned? Who is providing the care?
At Pure Cremation, our pricing is clear and inclusive. You’ll always know what to expect, and you can rest assured your loved one will be cared for with dignity.
For many families, the money saved by choosing a direct cremation means they can either:
- Organise a more personal farewell, or
- Leave a meaningful gift or donation in the person’s name
Who is a direct cremation suitable for?
An unattended cremation can be the right choice if:
- You prefer a more private, personal goodbye
- You don’t want a formal or religious ceremony
- You need more time to plan a gathering or memorial
- You want to avoid high funeral costs
- Your family is spread out and needs time to come together
- You want to focus on celebrating a life rather than mourning a death
It can be particularly helpful for people who don’t feel comfortable at traditional funerals, or who want their final farewell to reflect joy, not just grief.
What are the benefits of an unattended cremation?
Here’s how families often describe the advantages:
- Freedom – plan the farewell your way, on your timeline
- Affordability – far lower cost than a traditional funeral
- Personalisation – no two celebrations are the same
- Time and space – to grieve and gather without pressure
- Reduced stress – fewer logistics and decisions at a difficult time
- Focus on what matters – relationships, memories, and shared love
For some, an unattended cremation is a necessity. For others, it’s a deliberate choice to honour a loved one in a more personal and meaningful way.
What to look for in a direct cremation provider
When choosing a provider, it helps to ask:
- Do they specialise in direct cremation?
- Is the price fully inclusive?
- Are doctor’s fees and ashes return included?
- Do they employ their own team or use third parties?
- Where will your loved one be cared for?
- Can you read genuine reviews from other families?
- Are they open and transparent about the process?
Pure Cremation was the UK’s first dedicated direct cremation specialist. Our team is known for our kindness, professionalism and clear communication, and we’re proud of the trust thousands of families place in us.
Frequently asked questions
Will I still receive the ashes?
Absolutely. You can choose to have the ashes returned to you in a simple container or have them scattered in the crematorium’s garden of remembrance.
Can I visit the crematorium?
Some providers, including Pure Cremation, may offer the option to visit by appointment. Let us know what you’d prefer.
Can I still have a religious or spiritual element?
Yes. A celebration of life held later can include prayers, readings, or rituals that reflect your beliefs.
Can we still include music, readings or eulogies?
Definitely. You’re free to create your own farewell, with music, poems, stories and tributes. The possibilities are endless.
A simple goodbye that puts you in control
Grief is deeply personal, and so is the way we say goodbye.
Choosing an unattended cremation gives you the space, time and freedom to focus on what really matters: love, memories, and the life you’re celebrating.
At Pure Cremation, we believe that funerals don’t need to follow tradition to be meaningful. We’re here to offer you a simpler alternative. If you want to find out more, get in touch with our friendly UK team for free on 0800 470 23 93.
